BEWARE THIS IS GOING TO BE A VERY LONG POST:
Can anyone else relate to this? I am feeling like such a mean mom today...but I think it was necessary...or could I have avoided this whole situation by using better parenting skills? I'm just not sure.
Well the morning started off like any other morning. Sweet "Hellos" and hugs as my children enter my bedroom at about 8 a.m. I was showered and ready to go because we had a lot of things going on that morning. I get breakfast on the table and quickly things go south. I start to find myself saying things like, "Hurry up. You need to get ready. We're going to be late. Quit playing. Take another bite. O.K. You're done. You're taking too long. Etc." (Now let me preface all of that because I am out of patience after a bad week or so of children not listening 24/7.) So we get Blake to school on time. I had to go inside too to do this Take Home Reading Book Exchange thing that I volunteered to do every Wednesday. This was mistake #1 because what I thought would take about 25 minutes turned into taking about 45 minutes because they added a new element to the proceedure. Maya was sort of being a good sport to entertain herself while I did the exchange - until the very end. For some random reason she got on this kick that she wanted gum. Well, I apologize, but I did not have any gum. You would think that explaining this to a very bright little 3 year old would be good enough. Mistake #2. It was not good enough for the little diva and the tantrum began to unfold. And, me (being the mean mom that I am) did not cater to her desires. Well, I take that back, I did try to grow gum off of my pretend tree, but that was not good enough. So as we were rushing out to my car I realized Maya's ride to preschool/halloween party was going to be at my house in just a few minutes. So I tried to call my friend, Sabrina and tell her that we were late and that I would have to take her to school myself. Well, we are rushing. I am talking on the phone. Maya is screaming. We get in the car. She says, "You are so mean! You are so mean!!!" I ignore her as we started driving home. I started fantasizing out loud..."Maybe I will go away. Go on vacation or something. Maybe we can find someone else to take care of you guys for a little while." She starts crying even more..."NO! I don't want you to leave!" "Why? You guys won't mind. You'll be fine," I say. "No!" she said. I said, "Why not?" She said, "Because I love you! But you're still mean!" So, I call Sabrina to tell her that if she hasn't left yet, that I might beable to just throw Maya's costume on her and she could still catch a ride. Maya starts talking about how she doesn't want to go. So we get inside my house. I grab the costume while explaining that she can go with Sabrina and go to her party. It's going to be great! Yeah. Well, I start trying to put the full body suit - Cow costume - thing (that my neighbor lent me) on Maya and she is screaming, "I don't want to go!" We attempted 2 or 3 times and then I hear the faint sound of the doorbell. I open the door and say, "She's not going! She is NOT going. Blah, Blah, Blah - a lot of ranting and raving" as I walk with Sabrina outside. Maya was freaking out back in the house. When I got back inside she went straight to time out in her room while I unwound for a few minutes. Then I went in to soothe her a little. We exchanged some hugs. I told her that she wasn't going to go to the party though. Then she started freaking out again because she wanted to go. Especially when she saw me grab the costume that I was going to wear and say, "Let's take this back to Keri." "No!!! I want to go to the party!" Needless to say, she freaked all the way to Keri's house and back (a 20 minute roundtrip drive.) So I am the mom that did not let her 3 year old go to her Halloween party. Yes, I feel a little bit bad that she missed it, but if my kids keep this up, they will miss out on trick-or-treating as well. So, I'll let you know (not that anyone looks at this blog but I had to vent) how it all turns out. Fortunately though, there weren't any more incidences today. We even played in the leaves in the backyard. Why is it they only do what I ask when I have something to threaten them with. Oh, the sweet leverage of Trick-or-treating...
Well here is some evidence that we did have some fun today...
Sunday, October 26, 2008
My sister, Cassie, sent me pictures of a brag book that I made for her a couple of months ago. I made one for my other sister, Tammy, awhile back too. They were really fun to make. I don't get to do crafty little projects like this as much as I use to do, but I love it when I do. There is one for me in the works right now, maybe you'll see some photos in the near future. It was fun to personalize each one with names, dates, and personality traits.
Friday, October 24, 2008
Keri tagged me with this:
When my kids show love & kindness to each other
When my kids are obedient and sweet
Doing anything that has to do with quilting
Accomplishing anything on one of my many "to-do lists"
Good talks with my husband
Quality family time - just the 4 of us
Getting my exercise in for the day!
When my parents/siblings/in-laws are happy
Husband or kids dying/getting seriously hurt
Speaking in front of large groups
The ocean, whales and kangaroos - they are all FREAKY!
* I think wild animals and people should NOT mix and I'm kind of against zoos or keeping animals trapped up - sorry just a side note - I know it's not a fear!
Had to stay one night at a home for abandoned children
Fantasize about being a quilt designer or store owner
So now I am tagging Cassie, Brittany, Sabrina and all of the 'Couve girls!
Thursday, October 23, 2008
I made this simple cake for Ryan's sister's b-day on the 18th. It was really easy - bake one white cake mix in two 9" round pans according to directions on box. Cool. Between layers of cooled cake rounds spread 1/3 cup of fluffy white frosting (tinted with food coloring.) Use the rest of the container of frosting to frost the top and sides of the cake. Decorate with round Necco candies or baking melts in your choice of colors. So easy!
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Here are some photos from Blake's 6th b-day party. It was a great time for all. It was especially fun to see the kids so excited on the treasure hunt. I just gotta give a shout out to my baby boy. He is amazing. He is so sweet, thoughtful, gosh darn smart and thrives on being a pleaser. He is easy going, friendly, helpful and forgiving. He didn't even complain when I forgot it was "early out day" on his b-day and he had to sit in the office for 20 minutes (I know - I will never forgive myself for that one! I didn't even realize it at first. I showed up with donuts and balloons and when I got there - the classroom was empty. Such a schmuck!) But, I am so thankful to be a Mom and thankful to Heavenly Father for giving me such a special boy. He is growing up so fast and I know he will be a wonderful, tender, yet strong man someday. I gotta capture every moment.
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Some of you have heard stories about "Wife Appreciation Night." Ryan and our friend Matt have orchestrated 4 of these now over the last few years. Each one has been fabulous - filled with creative invitations, great restaurants and great friends, gifts, cards, funny books (Lisa have you read yours yet?:)), on one occasion: matching t-shirts (don't ask - One yellow, Op polo shirt up for grabs. Anyone?) Well, Lisa and I finally got our butt's in gear and planned a "Husband Appreciation Night." It was long over due. I know it probably didn't measure up to the creativeness that our Husbands have had in the past for these occasions, but hopefully they had a good time! We surprised our guys with a ride on the Park City Zip Line, dinner at Ruth's Chris Steakhouse (which was SOOO good!) and then dessert at a quaint little restaurant on Main Street. Park City was beautiful and we all felt like we need to get up there a little more often. It's a great little town.